The past week was totally crazy amongst Africans on social media. My people have found yet another way to channel their anger into a debate about cooking and not cooking…*eyeroll
Before I had any knowledge about the cooking debate, I read a story about a girl who didn’t know much about cooking anything but the basic pasta and noodles. She was also dating a guy who knew she couldn’t cook and she had her friend cook and clean for him and he eventually got her friend pregnant. As much as I can say this guy was probably not for this girl, her mistake which kind of opened the door for this mistake was she taking her friend to cook and clean for him.
Following this event, I started seeing a #WifeNotCook hashtag on social media; especially facebook. According to a commenter, it was a hashtag started by a man who wanted to prove that his wife was not meant to be a cook but also more.
Okay, let’s take this back a few notches. We are Africans, we have our ways and women have been working and cooking since time immemorial. I grew up watching my mother build her career as a Chef and she was also a mother, a wife to my father and a “cook” to us. The African woman is one of the strongest species on the planet. We are known to juggle child birth, mothering, wifing(for lack of a better word) and a successful career.
When I wrote my opinion about this debate, a few people said in reply “you would say this because you’re a chef.” And in my head I replied “if only you know what the ‘lazy’ in lazychef means.”
There is a saying that “no matter how much education a woman has, it all ends in the kitchen.” Derogatory? “yes!” But so it is for the man too. At least some ay? There are some men that cook too and they do it daily. For instance, in Germany there are house husbands who take care of their children and cook while their wives work. I just don’t understand why we as Africans just want to beat and drag this issue of “to cook or not to cook” like a dead horse.
Below is the post I made during the debate:
Me…I’ll cook. I love to. It’s my thing. I’ll cook for my husband and children…I won’t like my husband and children eating from other people…
As a man or a woman, cooking is a skill everyone needs…
At some point I thought I didn’t need it until I had to learn to make food for my father(God rest his soul).
You can’t come on social media and create a hashtag #wifenotcook for other married women to follow and help you trend. Who will cook for your children?
And to the single ladies helping the hashtag trend, please wait until you get to that bridge for you know nothing yet….
Most married women making this argument, will now leave the rest of you, turn off their phones and face their husbands. Some even kneel down to serve their husbands the food they tell you not to cook…
Listen, what works for family A may not and probably will not work for family B…know what works for you.
Start trending useful things like #jobforthejobless…
I’m tired of all these needless arguments…especially by my people. With this recession going on, the only happy moment is probably time spent with your family at the table.
Apart from me, some of my friends also had a few things to say…
“You want to have bellanaija wedding and you don’t want to cook or put food on the table. We that have been in it for 18 years now, what do you think we’ve been eating? Flies ba? You gon be fine!” Kyke
“All of una wey dey shout #WifeNotCook upandan. Are you well? Are you not putting the cart before the horse?
How many of una go still be wife this time next year? But e sure pass for una say all of una go still be cooks next year. After all, na who go make the Indomie and concoction rice wey you go chop as you dey cry say ‘Ozband waka comot, or e play go meet the side chick/hen?
Una know say hungry be like armu robber? E dey beat people to STUPOR, whether you wear ring wey big pass Lekki bridge or you single pass decimal point. Una never start. Me I am a cook, not wife. Because #NaFoodSurePass
Oya…comman beat me.” Ruona
I would love to know what your opinions are when it comes to women and the kitchen. As women, we strive to be more. A little appreciation; even for the food we prepare goes a long way to make us happy.